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Pornography – the Holocaust of Family

Photo by Greg Burkett

I couldn’t go very long without mentioning the largest single destructive force for families today. There’s no reason to tiptoe around the issue, everything about pornography is destructive to families. It destroys relationships between husband and wife, between parent and child, and between an individual and their community. While much can be said about how and why it is so destructive, I would like to focus today on how it can be overcome and share a project that is striving to help address this problem.

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culture

Rediscovering the Forgotten Parent

Photo by Phil Scoville

A recent article on the impact that fathers have on a child’s development brought this topic to mind. The article cited studies out of Oxfordcorrelating infant/father interactions and behavioral issues of young children. Better interactions between a father and a 3 month old correlated with fewer behavioral issues at a year and beyond. This is hardly a unique finding but it was a good reminder of this critical aspect of building strong families.

When we acknowledge how important good fathering is to building strong families the statistics about the absence of fathers is all the more alarming. Of course this is not a problem exclusive to fathers but the statistics on absentee and ineffective fathers is indicative of the overall weakness of the family in our present society.

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culture

A Holistic Approach to Building Families

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I fully support the idea that the family is the fundamental unit of society and that societies can’t be stronger than the families within them. While agreeing with that sentiment I find it interesting that whether is is expressed by the First Lady of Uganda or published by the World Congress of Families (WCF) nobody seems to give a straightforward definition of what they consider to be the boundaries of the family unit. The closest I can find to a definition is from the Madrid Declaration of WCF:

We affirm the natural family to be the union of a man and a woman through marriage…

While I agree that the foundation of a whole and healthy family must be the union of a man and a woman through marriage I do not believe that fully encompasses the fundamental unit which defines the strength of societies and nations. I also strongly suspect that the WCF does not mean to limit the definition of family to that one statement.

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Meddlesome Busybodies

Our society is hyper-alert to some kinds of danger (while being virtually asleep to some greater dangers), a fact we were reminded of today along with a reminder that such hyper-vigilance can have negative effects.

Our family went out running various errands in two separate vehicles and met at a store to pick a few things up before going home. At the end of our shopping trip I went to get the kids in the cars while Laura finished checking out. Because we had come from different places the cars were parked almost 50 feet apart. I got half the kids in one car and then helped the other half get in the other van. I then walked back to the car to drive it to a parking stall closer to the van. In the 20 seconds that it took me to do that there was a middle aged man in street clothes and a retirement aged woman who was associated with the store (as evidenced by her clothing) hovering around the van. They had already been there long enough for the man to identify himself to my 10-year old in the second car as a police officer. When they saw me approach they asked if it was my van and then told me that they were making sure that the vehicle was not unattended. Laura arrived just as they walked away.

If I had been gone for a minute or two their actions would have made perfect sense to me but as I was gone for less than half a minute and never further than 50 feet from the vehicle it seemed very presumptuous of them to alarm my daughter by knocking on her window and asking her to open the door. I don’t see how they could have had that interaction with her in 20 seconds without seeing me putting the kids in the car in the first place. Not only did they alarm my daughter but when Laura saw two strangers hovering around the van and learned that one was a police officer that left her concerned that the officer might take it upon himself to look up our address and pass it along to DCFS (he appeared to have taken down our license plate number) to alert them to these potentially negligent parents. Laura informed me afterward that she had heard that same store associate in the store making judgmental comments about another patron so even with little interaction she has shown a pattern of looking down on people.

I understand the dangers of having kids locked inside a car on a hot day (not that it was hot at that time of evening) but it seems to me that if you spot a situation like that the first thing you should do before frightening a young girl would be to observe whether there is any apparent distress in the kids (there wasn’t) and, absent any distress, observe the situation for a minute or two to see if the vehicle is actually unattended before butting in and causing distress where none had existed.

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culture life thoughts

Selling Yourself

I’m probably a decade late in actually reading the Cluetrain Manifesto for all I had heard about it for most of that decade that I have been not reading it. In the process I certainly picked up on the message that markets and business are driven by conversation and that those institutions who strive to manage or manipulate the conversation would find themselves on the losing end of the internet revolution.

In some ways I’m glad that I read it 13 years after it was written because I have the opportunity to look at how things have changed over the last 13 years in the way of internet, business, and technology and compare that to what Cluetrain was saying about the changes being wrought by the spread of the internet. The first impression I had was that the increasing levels of communication discussed by Cluetrain have continued to grow and show no signs of decreasing. On the other hand, the prediction that organizations would have to open up their communication to outsiders or be left behind has yet to take hold. Certainly many organizations are getting better at opening up channels and communicating in a more human way but there is still no lack of examples of the Fort Business mindset.

The real idea that I took away from the book was that in the age of hyper-communication all aspects of business are at least partly a matter of selling yourself by building relationships. This is true for products as well as individuals.

When it comes to products we have moved into an age where traditional advertising is less and less trusted in comparison to personal opinion – especially when it is the opinions of people known to the person making the choice in question. I think it’s always been true that the opinions and experience of acquaintances tend to have more weight in influencing a person’s purchasing decisions than professional advertising. The difference today is that personal opinions are so much easier to share and find than they used to be.

As for people, the adage that it’s who you know, not what you know that counts holds true. If you are looking for a job either as an employee or a contractor you have to do more than list your skills, you increasingly need to demonstrate that you have the personality to positively represent those you would work for or with. With the increasingly open lines of communication everyone associated with an organization is part of the public relations team to one degree or another.

My conclusion is that to get ahead professionally it is necessary to get better at communicating with others consistently and across more channels both so that I can be better practiced at communicating my ideas and also so that I will be more well known by others so that they can be comfortable working with me when I can help them or when they can help me.

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National politics

Politics vs Economics

I was interested in the idea of six economic policies that economists across the spectrum support and politicians across the spectrum oppose. It’s not that I am surprised that there are big ideas that make perfect sense from an economic perspective which are politically unpopular – after all, doing what has been deemed to be politically possible has led us to a dire economic position. Once I read the six policies I found my reactions to be interesting.

  1. Eliminate the mortgage tax deduction, which lets homeowners deduct the interest they pay on their mortgages. I have to admit that is one deduction that I have always wanted to keep but the fact is that it is not economically beneficial overall. The people who benefit the most are those who least need the deduction.
  2. End the tax deduction companies get for providing health-care to employees. This is one that I have long felt should be enacted. Many people are unaware of this deduction but I think if they understood how it works and what effect it has on our health care costs they could realize that it should be eliminated.
  3. Eliminate the corporate income tax. Completely. I can easily see why this one is politically unpopular but, like the deduction for providing health care for employees the net effect is to remove capital that would otherwise be used to create jobs or increase wages.
  4. Eliminate all income and payroll taxes. All of them. For everyone. I can easily see why this is politically unpopular but the logic is the same as eliminating corporate taxes. I especially liked their explanation on this one: “Taxes discourage whatever you’re taxing, but we like income, so why tax it? Payroll taxes discourage creating jobs.” For those who are squeamish about this they go on to encourage the creation of a progressive consumption tax to replace it – this isn’t simply a starve the government proposal.
  5. Tax carbon emissions. This is the first of their proposals that I am not sure I support. I recognize their justification for the policy but I’m not sold yet. This is really just a new version of a tobacco tax and I’m not sure that taxing tobacco has really accomplished what proponents might have hoped. Also, I consider that such a tax might distort the market in adverse ways that we have not yet considered.
  6. Legalize marijuana. I’m not a fan of the war on drugs but like the carbon tax I am not prepared to jump on board with this idea yet. I have heard the arguments and I recognize a certain amount of logic behind it but I am dragging my feet for now. I figure that to be intellectually consistent anyone pushing such a proposal should at least include taxing marijuana like we tax tobacco and like they are proposing to tax carbon.

So there they are. Six proposals and I really like at least four of them. The other two would take some convincing.

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life

Adventures at Grandma’s

Enoch wanted to go for a ride tonight so we decided to go down to Grandma Colette’s house to visit and harvest some things from our garden. While we were there Enoch picked up something white from the ground and started to put it in his mouth. Grandma noticed him pick it up and decided that perhaps he should not put the object in his mouth so she went to get it from him. As she grabbed it she found egg yolk running down her fingers. Apparently the object he had picked up was some kind of bird’s egg – big surprise for all of us.

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culture politics thoughts

The Liberty Line

In response to my question from yesterday I was surprised to discover that I got an answer and that the answer was an emphatic if ever-tenuous “yes.” We do have reason to celebrate our independence as a nation presently. More important than what the answer was was realizing what line in the sand would determine, at least for me, when the time had come that we no longer had reason to celebrate.

During the course of the festivities yesterday we stopped to pray over our afternoon meal (I’m sure people will not be surprised to learn that we were doing some grilling in the back yard for our meal) and while my brother in law was praying I realized that as long as we enjoyed religious liberty in this country, the freedom to pursue worship as we individually see fit (the only reasonable limitation being that one person cannot compel another to do something based on the first persons religious beliefs and practices), we would have reason to celebrate Independence Day. I don’t recall if there was something said in the prayer that prompted the realization or if it was simply the act of praying itself but the realization was powerful.

There are many other types of liberty in our nation that make our independence worthwhile but for myself I consider that if I had freedom of speech and association, the right to bear arms, protections against unreasonable search and seizure, respect for personal property, and all the other freedoms enshrined in our constitution but had the freedom to practice my religion taken away I would find no cause to celebrate what was left of our independence. On the other hand, if my freedom to live according to my religious belief were adequately protected but all other liberties were unprotected (insofar as they could be without infringing that one right) I would do whatever I could to promote those other natural rights but I would still consider myself blessed to live in a time and place where my religious freedom was recognized.

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culture politics

Do We Have Reason To Celebrate?

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It’s July 4th. Many of us in the United States are taking the day off from whatever our occupation. We will generally be spending time with family and/or friends. Food will be a big part of the day for many. Fire season may prevent this for some but fireworks are traditionally part of the experience. If you ask people what today is the answers will vary. Some will tell you it is the Fourth of July. Surely we are not simply celebrating a random date on the calendar. Others will say it is Independence Day. (My son just called it Parade Day.) What independence are we celebrating?

I know some people who will complain that those who celebrate the 4th of July are failing to see what we are supposed to be celebrating – they insist that it should be called Independence Day. Personally I like calling it Independence Day but I don’t think that what name a person attaches to the festivities is a reliable indicator of how well they remember the original purpose of the celebration.

This morning as I try to get prepared for all the running around with seven children (hoping that with sufficient preparation we can experience real enjoyment rather than hyper exhaustion) I began to wonder, do we have reason to celebrate anymore?