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Fathers on Father’s Day

Over the years in my life there have been a number of men who have served as examples of fatherhood for me – unfortunately despite whatever desires I have had my own father has never been among those men within the range of my memory. As Father’s Day approached this year I thought about how disappointing that was for me to realize that Father’s Day is a completely lopsided holiday for me – it is an excuse for my wife and kids to tell me I’m great (or not – young kids aren’t always reliable about acting as the label on the calendar might indicate) but I have no inclination to try digging out my Dad’s phone number to call him up and say “Thanks for . . . something; I just can’t think what exactly it was.”

Today started out bittersweet. Bitter for the reasons cited above, and sweet to hear my kids in the other room as I woke up singing Happy Birthday to their sister who has her birthday today as well. That indicated to me that we’re doing pretty good as a family. As I think on that and the fact that all my brothers seem to be doing pretty good as fathers in their own families I have hope for the future that my grandchildren and their generation of cousins etc. might be unaware that the chain of honorable fatherhood was ever broken in their ancestry.

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Shelf Reliance Giveaway

If anyone is interested in the ShelfReliance system they are having a givaway on Friday – just go leave a comment at their site (you can enter multiple times by doing various things, but the comment is the easiest entry available).

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A Sneak Preview

We went to have an ultrasound today to find out whether our next child was going to be a boy or a girl. We got some really good images of a very healthy and active baby. They were easily the most detailed ultrasound images we had ever seen except for the one time we got to have a 3-D ultrasound with Isaac (because the clinic wanted to test their new machine).

Enoch's arm

Aside from very clear images we got a good look at a very active little boy, turning his head, moving his hands and feet – he was almost constantly in motion. Hopefully that means that Enoch will be a very well-matched playmate for Isaac (once he is more than half Isaac’s size that is).

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Speed Affects Lifestyle

Preface

I was laying in my bed at 5:00 AM (when most people should be in bed) and my brain started reviewing the images of the roads I commute on. I began to think of how such a complex road system would be entirely unnecessary if we were not able to travel at the average speed of today’s normal commute. Consider this a stream of semi-consciousness about the impact that our speed of movement has on the kind of life that each of us lives.

Then

Let’s place the year 1889 as the baseline of a slower lifestyle. I choose that year because it predates the advent of the car, it is late enough that we had the ability to move faster than horse and wagon with the use of railroads, and it’s 120 years ago – a nice round number.

In 1889 most travel was done by horse or on foot. As I recall traveling 30 miles in a day was generally about as far as a person could expect to go. In the late 1870’s the Transcontinental Express was able to average about 35 miles per hour traveling across the country. That would appear to be the functional limit of traveling speed for that time.

Now

Today people regularly travel 70 miles per hour on their daily commute (outside of rush hour) only because we have created an artificial speed limit of 65 mph on our roads – without that speed limit most vehicles could easily travel at 90 mph.

For the sake of simplification let’s consider the differences that we would see if we were to limit our physical traveling of people to 5 mph (a fast walk) with a limit of 30 miles per day, as compared to today when I can comfortably make a trip of 600 miles in a long day and regularly commute 20 miles each way to work.

Comparison

In our modern situation the only real limitation on where I work (physically) is how much time I am willing to commute – I can choose to live 50 miles or more from my place of employment so long as I am willing to take the time to commute. In the slower lifestyle if we assume that I am willing and able to spend 6 hours of my day commuting in addition to the 8 hours I need to work then I could work as much as 15 miles from home.

From a community standpoint I could not reasonably interact with anyone outside a 7 mile radius on a reagular basis in the slower community whereas in the modern-speed community I could with no more effort interact with people anywhere in a 100 mile radius. If we had an even population density over that whole area that would mean that I have access to 204 times as many people on a daily basis. If we assume that there really is a limit on how many people I can know well then there I can really only know ½ of 1% of the available information about those I can interact with on a daily basis compared to the slower society

Conclusion

I am really not trying to suggest that our society has gone all downhill since some utopian point in our past, but I do like to think about the real results of what we think of as progress. As I was looking around (on the internet – there’s a new kind of speed there) I discovered an entry in Wikipedia on car culture that focuses on cars and addresses this same mindset of “what has really changed with this progress.”

What are your thoughts on the effect of rushing about in our society?

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Use the Proper Tool

I have written before about our national propensity to use government when it is not the proper tool for the job. Scott summed my point up very succinctly in a recent post:

There is a proper tool for every job. Use of the wrong tool often produces substandard results. Sometimes it is necessary to make do with what you have. That’s called innovation. But regularly using the wrong tool when the right tool is available is just plain stupid.

One of the basic tenets of classical liberalism is to regard government as a tool to be used only where it is most appropriate; the chief role of government being to safeguard and expand liberty. Many people (from all over the political spectrum) view government as a big stick to be employed in forcing others to conform to their particular view of good.

Government is not the only tool that we often use inappropriately, and sometimes the wrong tool is employed not because it is the tool of choice, but because we refuse to use the proper tool. Such is the often the case with regard to schools disciplining children.

A large number of schools use potentially dangerous methods to discipline children, particularly those with disabilities in special education classes, a report from Congress’ investigative arm finds.

In some cases, the Government Accountability Office report notes, children have died or been injured when they have been tied, taped, handcuffed or pinned down by adults or locked in secluded rooms, often to be left for hours at a time.

Some people would be quick to blame the authoritarian, impersonal schools for their outrageous methods of discipline and while I am far from a believer in the infallibility of schools I think that such blame is misplaced in the vast majority of cases.

The real blame lies in the fact that many parents fail to enforce discipline in their homes and even among those who do enforce discipline in their homes all too many make themselves unavailable to take on that responsibility when their children require more discipline than can reasonably be applied by a teacher in charge of more than a dozen students. What’s worse, is that we cannot even safely place the blame fully on the shoulders of the individual parents. Too many of them are forced into situations where they cannot devote themselves to parenting full-time. (Sometimes they just feel forced into those situations.)

As a society we have set too low a value on the role of parenting – placing it completely secondary to economic productivity. We have set expectations too high for our material and economic standard of living – where the luxuries of yesterday must necessarily be necessities today. Consider cell phones for every family member over the age of 10, cars for everyone over 16, cable TV, computers, game consoles, television sets in every room, dance-lessons, sports, and hobbies for each day of the week.

None of these things is intrinsically bad, but together they form unreasonable and unsustainable expectations and they destroy the possibility for most stable families to keep at least one parent available to take care of their children when needs arise.

Not only that, but we expect the schools to provide many of those hobbies through requiring gym, art, and music classes as well as extracurricular sports. The result is that even where there are parents at home and available the children often spend too many hours under the care of their teachers and not enough under the influence of their parents. This serves to lessen the parental influence and offers incentive for parents who would otherwise be available to commit themselves to other activities lest they feel they are wasting their time.

The problems are complex and interwoven so that any hope of identifying the solutions is dependent on our recognition of how and when any given tool can be used and insisting on using each tool in its proper place rather than finding favorite tools and trying to make this reduced tool set suitable for all our needs.

Cross Posted at Pursuit of Liberty

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Poorly Written Terms

Orrin Hatch invited people to comment at his blog on an op-ed he wrote. I decided to go share my thoughts and saw on his comments form that I was required to accept “terms of usage” to leave a comment. That’s fine, but I’m not one to accept terms without looking at them. Here’s what I found:

terms

In case the image is not clear the terms read:

By submitting your comments we reserve the right, at our sole discretion, to change, modify, add, or delete your comments and portions of these Terms of Use at any time without further notice.

According to those terms, Hatch (or his election comittee) can put words into my mouth and there’s nothing I can do about it. I admit that I don’t think that is their real intent, but they could do a better job at drafting the terms to do what they want to do. I suspect that what they really want to do would be fully covered by terms such as the following:

By submitting your comments we reserve the right, at our sole discretion, to delete your comments and to change, modify, add, or delete portions of these Terms of Use at any time without further notice.

There should be no reason for them to ever add to my comments and there is no reason why I should be at their editing mercy of changing or modifying my comments. Though I keep a very open comment policy on my sites I allow that others may choose to delete comments at their sites. I will no longer comment at Hatch’s blog so long as those terms remain unchanged – if I have anything to say I’ll say it at my site.

Update 5/8/09 @ 10:32 AM: I just got a message from Orrin’s staff that the terms of usage had been changed. I very much like the new terms:

By submitting your comments we reserve the right, at our sole discretion, to delete your comments, and modify these Terms of Use at any time without further notice. In addition, HatchForSenate.com uses an automated process that removes words from comments that may be offensive.

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What’s in a Name?

Despite the fact that I have had my twitter account for over two years I’m still pretty low on the twitter curve. Let’s put it this way after more than two years of having the account I currently have a total of 47 updates to my credit. Truthfully I ignored twitter after getting the account until recently when I decided that it might be interesting to see what’s happening in the twitterverse. It did not take very long before I noticed that I get lots of tweets directed at me from people I don’t know. I just assumed that this was another example of the dangers of having a common name. I got on twitter early enough that I was not forced to use a name like “whatdoyoucallaguywithnonicknameswhenhisnameistaken” when I created the account. I was lucky enough to get a nice simple “davidmiller.”

I have long known that there are many David Millers around (such as the Mayor of Toronto – yet one more reason I should go visit there) and I assumed that I was getting tweets from people who assumed that “davidmiller” on twitter belonged to a David Miller that they knew. Finally today I noticed that more than half of the tweets directed at me from people who obviously don’t know me contained links from blip.fm – I know nothing about the site except that from the content of the tweets it is obviously oriented around listening to music. I finally got curious and asked the people who recently sent me blip related tweets why they were sending them. The answer I got was:

holyshadow@davidmiller cause they have integrated twitter and blip, and since you have the same nick, you receive the blips on twitter. that answers?

So now I know why I may be the only person on twitter who has blocked more people than he follows (blocking people means that I don’t get informed every time they send a tweet my way) – due the the mashup nature of so many social networking services I am getting random tweets because some other David Miller has the same username on blip.fm as I have on twitter.com – I wonder if I can just block tweets that contain a url from blip?

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Finding Our Lost Sheep

Three days ago, on Wednesday evening, our hamster, Moonlight, got away from us. Normally when this happens we know where she is and/or she comes back where we can get her, but this time we could not locate her and she did not show up within a few minutes. We soon came to the conclusion that she must have made her way into the vents so we set out some food and water in a couple of places where she might get to them (such as the cool air return in the top of the downstairs hallway). Unfortunately after 24 hours none of the food or water stores had been touched and we were beginning to get worried. Our only consolation was that we were still occasionally hearing scratching noises from time to time suggesting that she was still alive.

Last night after Laura and I got home from our date Laura called me down as she heard Moonlight at close range in one of the basement walls near another cold air return. I took off the cover but there was no Moonlight. We decided that she must not be in the vents but in the walls themselves. We went into the spare bedroom and cut a hole into the wall where we heard her. She was not in the place where we cut, but we continued to hear her. She would begin climbing the walls every time we called her name. When we were confident about where she was located we finally performed the rescue operation (at 11:00 pm):

After two days of being trapped in the walls we had our Moonlight back. She was happy to see us and very happy to start drinking some water.

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The Test and the Key

Last November I was asked to speak in Sacrament meeting on President Packer’s talk from the October conference. I have long made it a standard practice to save my written talks for reference later if I get a similar topic in the future. (It’s interesting to go back and read some of them and gain new insight into the topic.) Today Connor wrote about that same talk and I thought that considering the importance of the topic I should share what I had presented when I was asked to speak about it in case it was of any use to anyone. What follows is essentially my written talk with two caveats – first, that my spoken talks are never exactly the same as what I had written; second, that I will be editing this as seems appropriate (removing references specific to that sacrament meeting for example).

I wonder how many people there were like me who were excited to hear the words of President Packer when he stated the purpose he hoped to accomplish through his talk as he opened by saying:

“It is my purpose to show that in troubled times the Lord has always prepared a safe way ahead. We live in those ‘perilous times’ which the Apostle Paul prophesied would come in the last days. If we are to be safe individually, as families, and secure as a church, it will be through ‘obedience to the laws and ordinances of the Gospel.’”(Boyd K. Packer, “The Test,” Ensign, Nov 2008, 88 emphasis added)

I don’t think any of us are surprised to learn that we live in perilous times and thus it is comforting to have the renewed assurance by one of the Lord’s servants that we can be safe and secure individually, as families, and as a church by obedience to the laws and ordinances of the gospel.

President Packer told of the Independence Day celebration by the saints in Salt Lake City in 1849. He said that if we could understand why they would have that celebration and why they would choose patriotism as their theme after what they had endured we would have unlocked the key to what a Latter-Day Saint is. Brothers and sisters, while we are called Latter-Day Saints, that is a title not so much for who we are in most cases as it is for who we are striving to become. Unlocking that key, therefore, is very important if we are to grow to be worthy of that designation.

President Packer is kind enough to explicitly state the key which we should be seeking to unlock about saints. The key to what a latter-day saint is is they are anchored to revelation. Or I would say, they are anchored to revealed truth. President Packer noted three aspects of that 1849 celebration which he described as “both symbolic and prophetic”:

  1. that the young men carried the Constitution and the Declaration of Independence
  2. that each young woman carried the Bible and the Book of Mormon
  3. and that the Silver Greys were honored in the parade

Each of these three aspects helps us to understand the types or sources of revealed truth to which a latter-day saint will seek to anchor themselves.

Though we believe that the Constitution of our nation is an inspired document we rarely think of it as a source of truth. The awful experiences of the early saints would make it easy to forget that it is worth anchoring ourselves and our society to the truths it embodies.

The spokesman for the Silver Greys, Elder Phineas Richards, provided the necessary perspective when he declared that they had seen the United States in its glory and thus they knew by experience “that the outrageous cruelties we have suffered proceeded from a corrupted and degenerate administration, while the pure principles of our boasted Constitution remain unchanged.”

We too have lived in a day when we have seen actions from our government that didn’t live up to the “pure principles of our boasted Constitution.” That may serve as a reminder to us that we cannot let go of true principles when we see those principles implemented imperfectly.

We know that the Book of Mormon and the Bible are sources for revealed truth in our day to which we must cling. They represent the iron rod from Lehi’s dream which will lead us to the tree of life and the eternal happiness that is promised to those who press forward to reach it.

The honoring of the Silver Greys is symbolic of the value that we should place on the life experience of our elders. The Silver Greys of our day would be the senior leaders of the church – men who have likewise been “seasoned by decades of [experience].” When those leaders speak we should give special weight to their counsel in our efforts to determine the proper course of action on the issues of the day.

If we are to be saints in these latter days – anchored to revelation – we must work to build a personal foundation of knowledge of revealed truths. In Doctrine and Covenants Section 88 the Lord admonishes us to “seek ye diligently and teach one another words of wisdom; yea, seek ye out of the best books words of wisdom; seek learning, even by study and also by faith.” (D&C 88:118) In that section He describes the order of the School of the Prophets which was to be a place for the instruction of all the officers of the church “in all things that are expedient for them.” (D&C 88:127) Joseph Smith established that school and I find it instructive that while they primarily studied topics of a spiritual nature in that school they also studied languages and were instructed “of things both in heaven and in the earth, and under the earth; things which have been, things which are, things which must shortly come to pass; things which are at home, things which are abroad; the wars and the perplexities of the nations, and the judgments which are on the land; and a knowledge also of countries and of kingdoms,” as they had been promised in verse 79 of section 118. (emphasis added) We too, as we increase our knowledge of revealed truth, will find ourselves learning of things which we had not previously viewed as spiritually significant.

If we are reaching to expand our understanding with the goal to be “anchored to revelation” we must learn to recognize what constitutes revelation of a sufficiently solid foundation for us to sink an anchor. Imagine a mountain climber attaching an anchor to which he will connect his rope to ensure a safe climb. He must place that anchor not in any piece of rock on the mountain, but to a part which will not come loose as he pulls at it during his climb. Alma tells us what is strong enough to support an anchor – it is those truths which are kept, or written down, and preserved so that they might “retain their brightness.” (See Alma 37:5) In other words, it is the standard works, our conference talks and documents such as Proclamation on the Family – as opposed to a quote from one of our past prophets that has been transmitted by memory and word of mouth. While those quotes may have value as a handhold, they may not hold an anchor against the pressures that we will face in our personal climbs.

Notice that the first two things that President Packer cited as symbolic and prophetic are all written down so that we may remember them clearly – the Constitution and the Declaration of Independence as one aspect and the Bible and the Book of Mormon as another. These retain their brightness and serve as a foundation in their respective spheres of influence. When coupled with the experience and perspective of the Silver Greys of our day, being anchored to these written foundations can ensure that we safely navigate the challenges that we face in our lives.

Not only can the breadth of topics which the brethren learned about in the school of the prophets serve as an example of what we should learn about, they counsel of how to learn – “by study and also by faith” is important. The educational institutions of the world have much to say about seeking learning by study, but what does it mean to seek learning by faith? What is the process to learn in this way?

Alma taught the Zoramites very clearly the process of learning by faith. First, “exercise a particle of faith, . . . even until ye believe in a manner that ye can give place for a portion of [the knowledge you are trying to learn].” (Alma 32:27) Second, test the truth or goodness of the seed you have planted by observing whether it [enlarges your soul], [enlightens your mind], and even [begins to be delicious to you]. (Alma 32:28) Third, if the seed has proven to be good or true, nourish that seed of knowledge until you are able to partake of the fruit of that knowledge. (Alma 32:41) A shorter and simpler description was given by the Savior during His mortal ministry: If any man will do his will, he shall know of the doctrine, whether it be of God, or whether I speak of myself. (John 7:17) To learn by faith means that we must put into practice those truths which we have not come to fully understand.

That might include paying tithing in order to see the promised blessings to know if the seed is good or it might be keeping the covenants that we have made through priesthood ordinances where we know that the seed is good, but we have not come to partake of the fruit of those covenants, which fruit includes the peace, safety, and security that President Packer is reassuring us about. If we have doubts concerning the counsel given to us by our priesthood leaders we should be seeking to learn concerning that counsel by following the path of learning by faith – we should be obedient to the counsel they have given in order that we may come to understand that counsel so that it may become part of the rock of revelation to which we are anchored. That is how we “give place for a portion of [their]words” and come to know “whether it be of God.”

As we seek learning by study and also by faith we will have a solid rock of revealed truth to which we can anchor ourselves and our families – and it will be the same rock to which this church has been anchored since it was restored upon the earth. Then we will come to know by our own experience the truth of the counsel that Alma gave to Helaman that “it is as easy to give heed to the word of Christ, which will point to you a straight course to eternal bliss, as it was for our fathers to give heed to [the Liahona].” (Alma 37:44) As we give heed to the word of Christ we will find our safety and security being preserved in miraculous ways.

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Getting Carried Away

Kids do the darndest things – especially if you blink. Today, while we were out learning about the options for a swingset we stopped at IKEA for some food. After we were done I took the kids toward the car while Laura just had to walk through the toy area of IKEA. I loitered with the kids near the entrance while waiting for Laura and as I was trying to get all the kids to go engage themselves in the drawing easels to pass the time (as Savannah was already doing) Alyssa suddenly tried to get my attention regarding Isaac. Not really hearing her I glanced at Isaac to find him going up the escalator ON THE OUTSIDE. He was hanging by his hands being carried up the outside of the escalator over a concrete floor.

I ran towards him to grab him off before he got out of reach but as I got to where he was and tried to stop myself and grab him the laws of physics reminded me that the shoes I was wearing had absolutely no traction. I went down in a heap next to the escaltor. Thankfully a woman who had seen this little boy rising in the air grabbed Isaac as I went down and set him next to me. Thus we could get a good laugh out of the whole thing (after we got the other kids to quit grabbing the escalator rail and left the building).

So while the whole thing could have been disasterous I am left wishing there was some video footage that I could play back so I could see what it looked like from an objective view.